Here are five articles that have me thinking…
The Incredible Benefits of Making People Feel Seen — and Heard
Peter Bregman. Heleo
Key quote: “Dr. Kipling Williams’s research on the effects of being ignored and excluded reveal an unsurprising truth: being ignored hurts. And it instigates behavior (often anti-social) that’s meant to recover your existence. In other words, people who are ignored will do things that cannot be ignored.” Read the rest here.
Power Causes Brain Damage
Jerry Useem. The Atlantic
Key quote: “Power, the research says, primes our brain to screen out peripheral information. In most situations, this provides a helpful efficiency boost. In social ones, it has the unfortunate side effect of making us more obtuse. Even that is not necessarily bad for the prospects of the powerful, or the groups they lead.” Read the rest here.
A sense of purpose could prolong your life
Ephrat Livni. Quartz
Key quote: “Notably, the research indicates that any purpose is better than none, as the reason people felt purposeful didn’t figure into the analysis. So it doesn’t seem to matter what it is that drives an individual, whether it’s a passion for growing peonies, say, or wanting to see their children develop, or loving the work they do. The important thing is simply having something that makes them excited about life and drives them.” Read the rest here.
Want to improve your life? Just learn to say no
Chloe Brotheridge. The Guardian
Key quote: “To start reclaiming your time and your mental wellbeing by saying no more, tune into what it is that you really want. Instead of saying yes on impulse, get into the habit of asking yourself: “Am I agreeing to this for me?” Start with small things, such as when you are offered a drink at the hairdresser’s or if someone asks you for an insignificant favour. Learn to recognise what saying yes and no feel like in your body. Yes might feel expansive, while no might feel contracting; learn to pay attention.” Read the rest here.
How Your Strengths Can Sometimes Become Weaknesses
Adam Grant. The New York Times
Key quote: “Strengths are like muscles: If you focus only on your triceps, your biceps will suffer. As Melinda Gates put it recently on my podcast, WorkLife: “Often our greatest weaknesses are the other side of our strengths.” If one of your strengths is openness, remember that there’s a fine line between sharing and oversharing.” Read the rest here.